happy autumn festival !! carrying latterns ? eating mooncake ? my grandparents tell me we've to eat pamelo and pamelo skin is peeled in the shape of a cap, and we have to wear it on our heads, so we'll be smarter in future ... i think it's a myth that i believe in... because i wear it all the way throughout my childhood even until today i am  wearing it !! haha don't laugh. but definitely it's a festival to remember. it's not only a get together with your family. but with your friends and partners also !

i spent my mid autumn festival @ my grandma place and so-call celebrating my father's birthday also. my father had brought me up till what i am today and of course i am my father's pride and faith ! not shy to say his product !! i wasn't here for my mum's birthday as i was working and now grabbing the opportunity to get together with my family. coz every festival is important to me ! most of my time i'm already not in singapore.

now turn around and reflect yourself. if you're in singapore, i'm sure most of you either face the computer, watch tv, read magazines and meet your friends. never would you talk to your parents. seldom .... because communication is a problem sometimes when you grow up. BUT i feel as you grow up, you should even look more into your parent's shoes. how much effort have they spent on you during you up-bringing stages, how much time and the way of teaching had they spent to bring you up during the past years ... have you ever thought about that ?

to me what i feel is that family should communicate. but that doesn't only comes from one side. when your father have a casual chat with you, trying to bring in conversation, it's important that you have to do your part in contributing to the conversation. like we normally say, one hand doesn't clap. but when you talk to your father, you should never give up in making him speak. because he had spent all his lifetime working hard, earning money and bring you up.... i know that father seldom shows or talks about their feelings. because they're normally carrying themselves as status of a father. but one fine day, just look at how daddy and mummy talk when they are together. or look at him when he talks to his friends. it's totally different. by giving him the due respect, talk to him as a friend as well address him as daddy. it really helps !! in a father-child relationship, or parent-child relationship. it's often having the gap in between. BECAUSE it's always lacking of effective communication. to have effective communication, you gotta think in his shoes and he gotta think in your shoes ! then you will realise that communication is not a big problem.

like me, i play with my parents like i play with my friends and brother, make them know the "REAL YOU" and the friends you mixed with !! slowly they will learn about you more. often parents are always thinking... where is my child going out to and who is my child going out with. if you did nothing wrong, there's nothing to hide about !! right ? now question yourself.... have you ever think in your parents' point of view.